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Dear Trudy
I’ve got a mate who’s having bedroom problems with her man. Everything is usually great in and out of the bedroom except for this one thing… His favourite position is lying back with her on top, thing is she hates it. Her quads aint strong enough for that sh-t! Plus it means he’s seeing her from the most unflattering angle ever.
He’s proper into it an every time they bang he wants her on top, what should she do? She wants to please him but she’s just not into it.
If you your mate isn’t into it she doesn’t have to do it. Feel like that bit is fairly obviously. If this guy is actually into her and she explains she doesn’t like being on top then he’ll accept it. Not saying he won’t be disappointed, but you can’t blame a man for wanting to delegate the hard work some of the time, you know?
If she wants to give it another go, I suggest hitting the gym and getting them squats in gal. then maybe you’ll have the stamina and the muscle strength to go on top for longer, you get me?
Dear Trudy
I’ve got a mate who’s having problems with his girl. The other day his girl saw a message pop up from another girl. He’s not linking this other chick but his girl still freaked that he was talking to another female.
Okay so some of the messages might have been a bit flirty but he aint actually met this girl in real life so it means nothing. She says he’s cheating, but how can it be cheating when him and this girl don’t even spend time in the same room? How can he convince her he’s not cheating?
To be honest mate, texting is one step away from cheating. Some people will always see it as cheating, and to be honest if sh-t is getting flirty in the DMs it’s only a matter of time before things escalate, isn’t it?
Cheating isn’t just about f-cking someone else, it’s about betraying someone’s trust (yeah, yeah that sounds moist but it’s true) so it doesn’t even matter if you f-cked the chick or not. For some reason cheating just seems to be a normal part of relationships these days – and it’s totally f-cking dead.