News 5 April 2017
Author: Trudy Barry

I’ve Got A Mate Volume 18: Chubby boys & unwanted kids

Author Trudy Barry
5 April 2017

I’ve Got A Mate is your new go-to place for all advice love/sex/relationship related. If you’ve got a mate who’s having issues, drop us a tweet with the hashtag #AskTrudy, but don’t expect the response you want to hear.

Dear Trudy


I’ve got a mate who’s been with her boyfriend about two years. When they first got together he used to go gym about four times a week and was pretty hench. She liked having a fit boyfriend and loved the way girls would stare at him when they were on the street.


About a year ago he injured his foot and shoulder and had to stop going to the gym. Since then he lost muscle mass and gained a lot of weight quite quickly. He got upset about this change and tried to make himself feel better with food, which just made everything worse!


She loves her man but she doesn’t find him attractive at all anymore. She stopped having sex with him time ago but even that didn’t encourage him How can she make him lose weight and get back her buff boy?

This is actually sad yeah because it sounds like your mate’s man is going through a hard time and has the sh-ttest girlfriend.

I’m gonna be blunt and say she needs to just dead it now, it’s the best for both of them. She obviously doesn’t love the guy, she loved being with a hot guy (don’t get me wrong – I’ve been there babes). But there’s no point in being with someone with the hopes that they’ll change to how you want them to be because neither of you are actually going to be happy in that situation.

Also, if she actually tried withholding sex as a form of encouragement and he seemed alright with it? He’s probably banging someone else already babes, I know bare girls that are into the chubby boi look.

Dear Trudy,

I’ve got a mate who’s been dating this girl for about six months. They aren’t an official couple but it defo looks like things are moving that way. At first they were using condoms but not so much anymore.

He asked her the other day if she was on the pill and she said she didn’t want to take it incase it made her fat. They both hate using condoms but neither of them want kids yet (they’re both teenagers still). What can they do?

Bruv you kids need to pay more attention in school, specifically your sex-ed classes, jheeeez! I get it, condoms are kinda dead still, but sex without any kind of contraceptive is gonna get her pregnant, it’s pretty much guaranteed.

The pill actually doesn’t make you fat, and there are tons of other non-hormonal contraceptives that girls can use, so sounds like your mate is dating a bit of a moron tbh. Tell them to get down the clinic and get some advice on other methods. And maybe get themselves checked out too because if they aren’t exclusive yet, it’s totally possible they’re giving each other hella STIs.

There is one alternative he could go for – man could make like Brexit and pull out. 😉