I’ve Got A Mate is your new go-to place for all advice love/sex/relationship related. Whether it’s girl issues or man issues, if you’ve got a mate who needs a bit of advice, drop us a tweet with the hashtag #AskTrudy. But don’t expect the response you want to hear.
Dear Trudy,
I’ve got a mate who met this chick on Tinder. Her chat was good and she had a banging bod so obviously he wanted to take her out on a date. Things went well and they ended up back at his flat, he goes to bathroom and when he comes back she’s lying naked on the bed. Great, right? Thing is, once she’d taken off her padded bra, waist trainer, heels and Spanx it turned out that banging bod was actually a mess. Man did his ting that night but now she’s blowing up his phone looking for round two and he kinda likes her, still. What should he do?
If your boy likes her then I’m struggling to see the issue, really. Broke boys walk around with Bimmer keys in their hand and Prada creps on their feet, but are still sharing a bedroom with their 10-year-old brother. Everyone accentuates their assets, it’s the nature of life. Just because she’s hiding a belly and boosting her tits doesn’t make her a bad person.
There is always the chance though that this girl could be hiding other things too, but unless your mate has been 100% honest with her then he’s not got a leg to stand on. So tell your mate to out with a fat chick, it won’t kill him, but he should probably be prepared for a roasting from the boys.
Dear Trudy,
I’ve got a mate who broke up with her ex six months ago, they’d been together about five years but he was too controlling and by the time it finally ended she was totally done. She moved on with her life straight away but he was still holding on. At first he was calling her every day, then it died down for a bit but she stupidly liked one of his pics on Insta and now he won’t stop calling her again. She told him she’d moved on but he said he’s not been with anyone else since and still thinks they can work it out. What should she do? She’s half tempted to give it another go.
Two words for your mate babes: restraining order. Nah, it’s not that deep but for real she needs to cut this one loose. You said he was controlling which is the deadest thing. Men that control are losers. They’ve got nothing else going for them so they have to make sure their girl doesn’t either. Also, it’s been six months? If rudeboy hasn’t moved on in that time then he’s got issues. I’m sure your mate is fit but if he hasn’t linked another girl in six months then this man is either butters or a legit stalker. Either of these options aren’t good.
The fact that she liked his Instagram pic means he’s still on her mind, so she has to do a mental clear out. My advice simple. Block, block, block. Block his number, block his Whatsapp, block his mum’s mate’s Facebook if that’s what it takes. Eventually he’ll get the message. But if she likes another one of his selfies then don’t come running to me for help.