I’ve Got A Mate is your new go-to place for all advice love/sex/relationship related. Whether it’s girl issues or man issues, if you’ve got a mate who needs a bit of advice, drop us a tweet with the hashtag #AskTrudy. But don’t expect the response you want to hear.
Dear Trudy,
I’ve got a mate who’s having problems with her man and his online creeping. He constantly checks her Instagram, Snapchat and Twitter and will use what he reads as ammunition against her. If another man likes her pic he goes mental and tells her to delete it. She feels like she’s being punished for being buff. He’s now saying he wants her to delete her Instagram, but Snapchat is fine because he can keep tabs on where she is. She wants to keep him happy, but she just hit 10k followers, what should she do?
Social media has done a lot for relationships – mostly bad, but some good. One of the good things is it’s easier to tell when your man is a F-CKING PSYCHO. I’ve written previously about how dead controlling guys are (you can read that here) but honestly this guy sounds next level loco.
Jealously is normal and even healthy in any relationship but there’s limits. Obviously if your mate is in the club grinding up on bare wasteman then her man has a right to be p-ssed, but losing his mind over a couple selfies shows he’s got some deeper issues. Thing is, a secure guy should be gassed that his girl gets so much attention. Either he’s insecure or has trust issues – neither of which are your mate’s problem.
End of the day if your mate deletes her socials it has to be because she wants to do it rather than because someone else wants her too. And girl, 10k followers is a lot to throw away.
Dear Trudy,
I’ve got a mate who’s just started dating a girl. It’s only been a month or so but they’re getting on really great and she seems bless. She’s going out of London for Christmas so they exchanged gifts this week. He got her a pair of earring that she loved, nice one boy. But then he opened her present and it was a Lynx shower gel kit… Now correct me if I’m wrong but that’s the kind of present you whip up for the office secret santa, not your new man. Is she putting disrespect on his name?
Loooooool, is your mate sensitive or what. Have you ever heard ‘it’s the thought the counts?’ Christ, give the girl a break. How are you meant to buy a present for someone you’ve only been dating for a month and be expected to get it 100% right? Hell, I don’t even learn a guy’s second name till the three month mark.
It sounds like your boy is giving to receive, which just ain’t the spirit of Christmas, babes. He got her a nice gift and she appreciated it, so what if her one missed the mark? You say that until this point they’ve been getting along great, so he needs to forget about the presents and just focus on that. Hopefully his mum will come through with the top notch presents come Sunday to ease his pain.